How to Be a Maid of Honor: Overview

Being the Maid of Honor is a significant responsibility. The Maid of Honor keeps things organized and under control. It can be a very stressful job, especially if you aren't sure what is expected of you. The one thing to remember, however, is that you were chosen to be the Maid of Honor for a reason: the bride trusts you and knows that you are the most capable person for handling large groups of people, emotional crises, businesses, and event planning. The involvement of the Maid of Honor is so important to making the day a success...don't take it lightly! The Maid of Honor carries a lot on her shoulders during the wedding, but remember--you can do it!

The responsibilities of the Maid of Honor can be divided into two categories: duties and roles. The duties of the Maid of Honor are all of the tasks that she is responsible for completing or for delegating to others. The roles of the Maid of Honor are the kind of person that she has to be for people involved in the wedding--primarily the bride and bridesmaids, but also for others.

Maid of Honor Duties

When it comes to the duties of the Maid of Honor, the most important piece of advice has to offer is to take the time to sit down with the bride and define your duties as the Maid of Honor. Do this as soon as early in the process as possible. Brainstorm. Write it down. Use free project management software such as ZoHo or OpenGoo so you will both have to-the-minute updates on all of the tasks that have been completed and what still needs to be done. When it comes to Maid of Honor duties, good communication is key and your ability to carry plans through will make or break the event.

Having said that, it is equally important for the Maid of Honor to easily adapt to the changes which are sure to come during the process. The rule of thumb is: If something can go wrong, it will. Even though it is the Maid of Honor's job to crush that rule of thumb into the ground (!), you need to be as adaptable as possible and keep lots of back-up plans on hand.

See our page "Maid of Honor Duties" for a detailed list of all of the tasks you may be responsible for as the Maid of Honor.

Maid of Honor Roles

As the Maid of Honor, your primary responsibility is to the bride. See our page "Bridesmaids" for more details on what might be expected of you as the leader of the pack. The Maid of Honor is the captain of the bridesmaid team. When a bridesmaid has a question, they turn to the Maid of Honor. It is your job as the Maid of Honor to be the "leader of the pack" when it comes to the bridesmaids. For more information on your responsibilities to the bridesmaids, see our page "Duties."

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